Not all sex has to be exclusively genitals-on-genitals. Oral sex is always a great pleasure option, whether you’re giving or receiving — or both at once. Not to mention that many women report enjoying oral sex more than penetrative sex. So what are your options when it comes to cunnilingus and 69ing? Let’s check it out.
Lying for Her
One good turn deserves another — this position is the gender-swapped version of the above one and similarly allows her to relax and you to really get to work. It’s also perfect for amping things up a bit by adding some fingering to the mix to really take her pleasure to the next level.
Standing for Her
This is a bit trickier than the male equivalent, but it’s a solid option if there isn’t a bed available — although trickier to pull off in more public situations if your partner’s wearing pants or shorts. Just kneel at her feet, have her spread her legs a bit and go for it.
Face-Sitting for Her
For female on male, this version works even better. The mechanics are pretty simple: You lie flat on your back, and she straddles your face with her thighs, lowering her crotch onto your head. You can also use a pillow to take some of the pressure off your neck. Women love this position, but a lot of guys do too, a) because it’s a pretty comfortable way to eat her out and b) there’s a bit of female dominance to it. You also get the full experience: The taste, the heat, the smell and the moisture of her vagina are all right in your face. She can also add a bit more pressure if you want to kick the intensity up a notch — though in that case, you’ll want to work out a signal in case you find yourself struggling to breathe.
The classic mutual pleasure oral position, 69-ing is a thrill for the head-to-toe positioning. It also works for any combination of two sex partners. If you’re lying one on top of the other, typically woman on top is easier, with each of you pleasuring the other orally. An intense oral option that’s not for everybody, the 69 also tests your concentration and your ability to pleasure your partner while she’s doing the same for you. Work on this one and play with various configurations so you’re most comfortable.
Another fun option for the 69 is to simply turn it on its side. While sideways 69ing requires a bit more effort than the upright version, it’s a great option if lying on top of each other is tricky for whatever reason, and offers a fun new spin — literally — on a classic oral position.
The Upside-Down 69
Not satisfied with simply turning the 69 sideways? Amp it up another level with the Upside-Down 69. This variation, which is not for beginners, also requires some specific hardware, as you’ll need a chin-up bar or some sort of equivalent bar for the top person to hang from. Don’t try this without first ascertaining that it can hold your weight (or your partner’s), though. You can also alternate which one of you is upside down if you’re really enjoying yourselves.
A table, a windowsill, a countertop, whatever the case, having your partner up above means that you can go down on her… without going down too much. Have her bring her legs right up to the edge of whatever platform she’s on, and then either kneel or stand (depending on her and your height) and give in to the pleasure of cunnilingus. This is another one that is great for getting it on in public, because you don’t need a nice cushy surface to lie down on.
Sort of a reversal of the woman-on-top face-sitting position, this one is great for guys who love cunnilingus but who still want to be a bit more dominant. Typically, this one starts with the woman lying on her back, her partner can then pick her lower body up and support it while her head and shoulders remain in place.
Unlike most other oral positions, this Doggy-Style one is (crazy bending ability aside) pretty much just for performing on women. Have her get down on all fours, either propping herself up on her knees and hands or knees and elbows. You then either get down on all fours and pleasure her orally from behind, or have her on all fours next to the edge of the bed so that you can either stand or kneel on the ground to make it easier on your back.